Weekends are complicated, if you’re an adult. While there are undoubtedly some individuals who manage to stay in a blissful and relaxed tiny umbrella in your drink kind of mindset from works end on Friday till Monday morning, I do not count myself among them. Don’t get me wrong, I am glad for weekends, I wouldn’t trade them for a pile of gold, although if I had a pile of gold, weekends would probably extend into whole weeks instead. No, the trouble with weekends is that while they are indeed a wonderful time to relax and catch one’s breath, they are also the perfect window to catch up on all of the little and sometimes not so little things that didn’t get accomplished during the week. This is the nature of the weekend conundrum, how to find the balance between what you want to do and what you need to do or sometimes feel you need to do to get prepared for the week ahead. Some examples; Laundry in my house is usually done every other Saturday, shortly after waking up I would put in the first load, and throughout the day I would continue the cycle of wash, dry, fold, usually enlisting my husband for the folding portion. This is not bad, but it is somewhat draining because there would be two weeks’ worth of clothes to wash and fold (really it’s the folding and putting away that wound my soul). Cleaning our two bathrooms also took place during the weekend, as did mopping the kitchen floor, vacuuming the living room and bedrooms, and dusting around the house (sense a pattern?). Basically an entire day of the weekend would be lost to various cleaning and housekeeping endeavors. So a 5 day work week suddenly turns into 6, without the benefit of overtime pay, and to top it off, by the time the other day of the weekend rolled around, I was exhausted. Something had to change so that I would be able to feel at least somewhat restored during the weekend, given the fast-pace of life during the weekdays. Some of the changes that have been the most fruitful have been to do something I enjoy right away on Saturday, whether it’s go get a cup of coffee, or sit on my porch and read a magazine. Starting the day with a bit of leisure primes my brain to slow down and ease into the day rather than begin tackling all of the chores immediately upon waking. I have also delegated many more of the regular household chores to my husband to do on his days off, such as cleaning one of the bathrooms, and vacuuming one of the floors. This immediately removed half the load of work from a typical weekend day, and when we do have a weekend off together, we decrease the overall number of items on the to-do list and push them to the following week instead so that we can enjoy our time. Finally, we (ok, I mean me) have relaxed our standards a bit for cleanliness around our home. I do not like to see clutter, so that is usually one of the first things to be taken care of, but the dusting? Well, not as much of a deal breaker if it does not get done every week, same with mopping all of the floors, if it looks pretty clean, than maybe just a quick sweep. Sometimes we get stuck in a certain way of doing things that really only serves to add more stress to our lives, cleaning is important for health and aesthetic reasons, but ultimately if one is wearing themselves out to take care of it all, than it might be time to let those smudges on the fridge go for a couple more days, and finally ease into a true weekend state of mind.