I didn’t fully realize until this year just how critical having a supportive spouse is to being successful in whatever it is you do. Ever since my husband decided to cut back on his work hours and instead focus on finishing his degree, I’ve been getting so much more accomplished. The first three months of 2018 have so far been some of my most challenging of my professional life in terms of sheer number of projects I’m working on, yet in other ways, it’s been pretty great.
With being pulled in so many directions at work and choosing to also write this blog and contribute to various publications, my typical workday is anything but typical. While as of right now, I’m enjoying the challenge; I’m also weary of burnout, something I’ve dealt with in the past (in fact it was the reason I started writing in the first place). Burnout is definitely a place I never wish to return so I put all my balanced living skills to use whenever possible.
Even though individually I have a fair amount of control of how I choose to spend my time and devote my energy, having someone consistently help you, really makes life easier. With my husband spending more time at home, and having more energy in general, I haven’t had to cook in over a month! It’s unbelievably sweet to come home and know that dinner is on the table, and all I have to do is sit down and enjoy a meal (and often enough a gourmet one to boot).
Besides not knowing that my husband possesses such culinary talent, I didn’t know just how much better life could be when someone frees you from dealing with a lot of the mundane tasks. Intuitively it makes sense, yet I always held on to some vision of what a ‘traditional’ wife does, so I still ended up taking a lion’s share of the housework, especially early in our marriage. As the years have passed, I have grown more comfortable with a more equal division of labor, even when that means things get done to a less exacting standard than I’m used to.
I now get why men have been able to be in power as long as they have. When you’re not even remotely thinking about what to make for dinner, or that the laundry needs to get done your mind is free to ruminate on other things. I’m getting to be more creative at work and even though I’m working harder than ever, I’m enjoying what I’m doing because I’m not coming home to a second shift.
I now get why people say that who you choose as a life partner is probably the most important decision you will ever make. The last few weeks have made it evident that I chose right. I just don’t know how I’m ever going to go back to making dinner and cleaning. It’s Roomba and rotisserie chicken for life!